Mating In Captivity
Esther Perel explains what it takes to bring lust home
While we all dream of finding ever-lasting love, divorce rates have been going up globally since the 1970s.
If you’re interested in the details: the frontrunner is The Maldives, with a divorce rate of 5.52 per 1,000 residents. Sri Lanka is the best in class, with a divorce rate of only 0.15 per 1,000 residents.
Thus, you know where to move to (and where not) if you want your marriage to work. (Just kidding, as correlation does not imply causation.)
Given these terrible numbers, something is clearly not working in our relationships. What could it be, and how can it be fixed?
Esther Perel is one of the world’s most famous psychotherapists and relationship experts. So if there’s anyone who can guide us towards better relationships, it’s probably her.
In her book, “Mating In Captivity”, she examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to “bring lust home”.
As it was a real eye-opener for me, I’d like to share my key insights with you:
- We are all contradictory. We expect our partners to give us security and adventure, reliability and novelty, continuity and change, and so on. We want…
